Belief Systems represent an invisible operating system, like our computers have an operating system that wires them. Belief systems, like computer operating systems, are invisible and are operating systems, and they shape how we relate to one another, it shapes how we relate to the world, how we respond to experiences, it defines the assumptions, the expectations and the perceptions that we have that are mostly not expressed but shape our relationships to a large extent. Belief systems are responsible for how we show up in the world.
Belief Systems represent an invisible operating system
Secondly, belief systems are either dysfunctional or they add value. And thirdly, belief systems develop to become strongholds in our lives primarily because they are passed down to us, we inherit belief systems from previous generations and we own them without questioning them and examining their relevance to our own lives, we just take them on and carry on with life without really understanding their relationship to how we engage with each other and engage with the world.
An example I can share is that I grew up in apartheid South Africa. I came from a home where my mother left her marriage in 1960s when women didn’t do that, women in the 1960s just didn’t leave their marriages. This had a huge impact on me, ‘what kind of a woman has so much courage to leave her marriage because it wasn’t working for her?’ I grew up realizing that I am not what society defines me to be, I am not less than, I am not unequal to someone else and that is how I came to live fearlessly in a in a male-dominated world.
My first career was in a car manufacturing company, which was completely male-dominated. I was one of the first women to work in that industry and over the last 30 years that has been my experience, living in a man’s world to demonstrate to myself that I am just as equal and I am just as capable.
And the reason I am able to stand is because I don’t compare myself to what they are able to do or what someone else is able to do. I compare myself to what I am able to do, because I truly believe that each one of us is fearfully and wonderfully made, so that’s the premise from which I live my life. That if we are all fearfully and wonderfully made, we each must have something really special to contribute to the world, and I can’t contribute that if my life is shaped by some belief system that someone passed on to me and conditioned me with.
I can only contribute to the world to the best of my ability if I step outside of that box, because all that it (someone else’s belief systems) offers is a box that is actually quite small. But if I step outside of that box and really explore, that is really when I can show up in the true measure of my potential and it’s when I can make a contribution to the world that can only be made by me. So the contribution that I have made to the world, no one who is sitting here or anywhere else in the world can make. In the same way I cannot make any of the contributions that all of you have made or that you are depriving us of, because if you are not making your contribution you are depriving the world of that contribution that can only be achieved by you.
…the contribution that I have made to the world, no one who is sitting here or anywhere else in the world can make.
Our Amina Deep Penetrating Moisturising Conditioner is the best deep conditioner for deeply moisturising, hydrating and softening the kinkiest, moist coily of 4c/z hair! It rewards your coils like no other. It is a thick, creamy conditioner, formulated with concentrated natural oils and natural conditioning agents that are extremely beneficial and responsive to kinky dry hair.
Why Deep Condition?
All hair types require deep conditioning or treatments or masks. But for African hair, deep conditioning or treating your hair is the most important thing you can do. It is a must to deep condition African hair, whether natural or relaxed, once a week. African hair is naturally dry and brittle and needs extra attention and assistance to thrive. Deep condition makes sure hair gets the moisture boost, nourishment and strengthening it needs to be soft and smooth. Deep conditioning is a process where a concentrated conditioner or treatment is applied to the hair and left on the hair for a period ranging from 20mins to 60mins. This is to ensure that the product gets into the hair. Most other products are applied and sit on the hair, not penetrate it. The length of time, plus heat ensure that deep conditioning happens.
How To Deep Condition Using Amina Deep Penetrating Moisturising Conditioner
There are several ways to deeply condition hair, but what is common amongst these methods is the stimulation heat. Heat encourages the hair cuticle to open up allowing the conditioner to PENETRATE each hair, ensuring silkier and hydrated hair strands.
Step 1: Cleanse Hair
The best way to use the Deep Penetrating Conditioner to deep condition is after you have washed your hair with a shampoo. Clarify your hair only when necessary or once a month, using raw and unfiltered Apple Cider Vinegar (mixed with water) or a clarifying shampoo. Washing removes product build up allowing for easier penetration of the conditioner into your hair.
Step 2: Apply Conditioner Generously
After washing and rinsing shampoo, apply a very generous amount of conditioner to dripping wet hair. Do not dry your hair after rinsing off your shampoo.
Note: For that extra WOW FACTOR, simply add a small amount of our AfroBotanics Mukaya African Oil Blend to your conditioner in your hand before applying to wet, it is a blend of Coconut Oil, Shea Butter, Avocado Oil, Marula Oil and Baobab Oil.
Step 3: Activate Conditioner Using Heat
Methods to Activate Heat:
- Heat Cap: the heat cap is an all-time favourite as it requires the least admin, and at R600.00 max, is worth the purchase. After applying the Deep Penetrating Conditioner put on a shower cap, and on top of the shower cap use a headscarf to protect the shower cap from melting from the heat of the heat cap. Put the heat on the highest level, bringing it down as time passes. Sit for 20 minutes, cool-off and rinse off the conditioner.
Hooded Dryer: So there are two kinds. There’s the one which we are familiar with and have probably used a few times, the one available at the salons – more professional. Then there’s the smaller portable one with a hair bonnet that needs you to connect your blow dryer to it. However they work similarly. After applying the Deep Penetrating Conditioner, put on shower cap and sit under the professional dryer, or connect your blow dryer to the end of the hair bonnet hooded dryer for 20 – 25 minutes. Cool-off then rinse off the conditioner.
- Body Heat and Microwavable Heat Caps: The most affordable and also effective method. After applying the Deep Penetrating Conditioner. Apply a plastic cap and go about doing your usual in-house daily routines. Try and get in contact with the sun as much as possible, ensure that your head heats up. The aim is to trap the natural heat that you produce in the cap, so you can wear a beanie or headscarf too. For assistance use a microwavable cloth or a microwavable heat cap that you heat up in the microwave as instructed. You can heat it up as many times as you like. This method takes between 40 – 60 minutes. You can also heat up the conditioner for 20 seconds in the microwave before putting on your hair to get that heat going.
Step 4: Detangle
Detangle or comb hair after the heating process, whilst there is still a lot of conditioner in hair. It is important to always detangle hair to prevent knots and tangling, these will later cause hair breakage.
Step 5: Let Hair Cool Down/Off
After deep conditioning let your hair cool off before you wash off the conditioner. This is to ensure that your cuticles close before you wash. The heat opens your cutiles to let in the conditioner and moisture, to ensure the moisture and the good stuff from the conditioner stays in, the cuticle must be closed first. Letting your hair cool down closes to cuticle trapping the moisture in it before washing.
Step 6: Before Moisturising
After rinsing off the conditioner, leave hair to air-dry for a while before applying any product. This allows for excess water to evaporate and only the water your hair needs to remain. Moisturise and seal only damp hair hair. Apply your leave-conditioner or moisturizer or oil to damp hair. If you moisturise hair whilst it is too wet, your hair may get dry because the products would have evaporated with the excess water that still remained in your hair.